How to Start a Conversation About Divorce
No matter what anyone says, divorce is never an easy thing to talk about, especially when it’s about to happen. In fact, the longer a person has been in a marriage, the harder the discussion usually is.
The statistics tell the story; 40 to 50 percent of marriages eventually end up in divorce here locally in Sarasota and Bradenton. So, if you’re finding yourself in a position needing to have such a conversation, here are some specific steps that you should follow.
Start With Honesty
Divorces only get harder with dishonesty and lying. Be honest, up front and clear about why a divorce is needed. It avoids a lot of explanations later, and it makes acceptance of the change easier. Divorce shouldn’t be communicated as a threat or as blackmail. It should be what it is, reaching the start of a separation and beginning to live separately.
Don’t Get Bogged in Details
While an uncontested agreed upon divorce is ideal, it’s not often the situation when emotions run hot. Avoid getting into details or specifics; that will work itself out in the process. Instead, focus on an honest statement about why a divorce has to happen and keep it simple.
Be Prepared for a Reaction
Obviously, a reaction to a divorce request will be shock, sadness, fear, and then usually anger. It’s natural to respond this way, especially after trusting a person for so long. However, many know a divorce is coming, usually after a long period of difficulties. So, focus on the reality of the need and stay on track.
Don’t be Blunt with Timing
Find a good, private time to talk about a divorce where you won’t be interrupted. Weekends or evening discussion are better, and it should be in person versus over a phone or emails or texting.
Sarasota Divorce Attorneys
When it is time to proceed forward with a divorce, a divorce lawyer is needed. The Law Offices of Matthew Z. Martell, P.A. in Sarasota, Bradenton, and Venice, FL can help. Specifically, we can help you resolve your divorce through mediation and settlement, as well as traditional trial if necessary. Call us; you don’t need to struggle alone.